A little bit of Adeline July 18, 2011
Some recent Adeline-isms…
-too tall enough
-She says my instead of I. So she’ll say “My did a good job!”
-today there was apparently a flock of frogs about 6 feet off the floor that she was trying to catch. I have no idea if they were floating or flying, just that it required her to stand on various pieces of furniture to get them.
-since we just celebrated Lucy’s birthday, she’ll all about birthday cake and hats.
-She’s got the most amazing imagination, and we spend a lot of time pretending. There’s a full set of gymnastics equipment throughout our house that only she can see, and she takes things off the pages of books to carry around with her. She’ll give me “things” and I’ll put them in my pocket, and hours later she’ll come back and ask for them.
-Jake dug out the first of two flower beds for me this weekend. I forgot how literal 2 year olds are, and she thinks it is a bed, and spent the whole time he was working laying down in “the bed”.
She’s just the best.
Sweet Adeline June 10, 2011
Most awesome kid ever.
…she declares “Adeline’s awesome!” after doing things like going potty or sharing toys. You are, kiddo, you are indeed.
…she has really been into smelling lately. Yesterday I was making salad, and she was overjoyed to discover not only did the carrots smell like carrots, but the bell pepper smelled like bell pepper. She is also discovering letters, and now when we put her lotion on, I draw the letter of her choice on the palm of her hand. Last night, she asked for a letter I. After I drew it on, she smelled it and declared that it smelled like letter I.
…she is getting to the point where she can recount events, so if she goes out with her dad, she can come home and tell me what she did. I love hearing about outings from her perspective.
…she’s always been a narrator, and her new thing is saying “Look!” and then pointing out something of interest. At the grocery store the other day, while we were checking out, she said “Look! A man!” which was totally random and hilarious.
This age is challenging for sure, but it is so much fun. It is making me so excited for Lucy to get bigger, I can’t wait to see what her personality is like.
I’ve been really trying to pay attention to my attitude the past couple of days, and I’m noticing a big difference. Things have been so much more pleasant, Adeline hasn’t been in time-out since Sunday (!!) and man, this is just nice. I love getting to bedtime and not feeling like I’ve been run over by a truck. It also occurred to me that I was pushing dinner and bedtime back too far, so by the time I was trying to get everyone down it was turning into a fight. We’ve eaten and done bedtime earlier the past couple of days and that is going better too.
Adeline told me “bless you” the other day when I sneezed. I say it all the time, but it was funny to hear it from her. I commented one day that we needed to run to the store, and she thought I meant literally so she ran to do everything I asked her to do before we left. Hilarious. She’s still using the sounds of things instead of the words to describe things-so she’ll say she achoo in her room, or she muah Lucy. She’s getting closer to being potty trained. I’m just letting her do what she wants, she gets a choice between o-wears and diapers. Today she mostly went with o-wears and only had two accidents.
Lucy is just as fun as ever. I suspect she’s got another tooth coming in because she’s having a hard time sleeping and she’s a little cranky. She just laughs and laughs all the time. She started cruising furniture, and she can get from one end of the couch to the other awfully quick. We’re moving away from purees to finger-foods and it is so, so nice. I’m totally going to skip purees with the next baby. She’s still nursing, but it’s dropped down to when she’s tired and overnight.
Hopefully later this week we will get some specific info about moving, Jake said the house looks pretty close to done, but it is hard to tell just from driving by. I would LOVE to at least have a ball park date, SOMETHING. I need to plan, make lists, pack! I feel so disconnected right now waiting for this to just happen already. I’m so excited to move and start our new life, I have so many ideas and plans (a garden! the house has a clothesline!) and I just can’t do anything right now and I am getting antsy.
Leika seems to be doing okay without Toly. She’s more mellow I guess, but it is kind of hard to say. She has to stay in the office during the days right now because O is here-no dogs allowed around other people’s kids. We’ve tried a couple of walks with the new stroller and just her, and we’re still struggling. She just pulls SO MUCH and it is so hard with the stroller. If it was just me and her I wouldn’t mind so much, or if she would just walk next to it, but she keeps doing a weird little side-step and her feet get run over which is both annoying and dangerous. I’m going to call a lady I found online about helping me with training. She’s [the dog] got the basics down, and there’s just a few things I need help with-the walking, her food issues (she counter/table surfs and will eat all the cat food if I don’t watch her) barking, and I want someone to watch her interact with the kids. She actually seems to like Adeline and will sit and get petted and just walk away when she’s had enough. Adeline is going really well with moving slowly and quietly around the dog, and we’ve been really practicing how to pet / approach Leika. I’ve also been having Adeline give her treats and she’s in charge of getting the food bowl (but I do the actual feeding) so Leika will associate the kids with good things. I also wish I could find a way to engage her more. She’s not interested in fetch, what else can I do with her? We’ll have a big yard, maybe we can build her one of those agility courses or something? It sucks, she’s got to be bored out of her mind. We’ve got a lot of work to do.
The Week March 17, 2011
Feels like everything is falling apart. I’m grasping for control and not finding it, and it is driving me nuts. I’m not handing things well right now and it is counterproductive and frustrating.
No info on our new house. No arrangements for our current house.
Adeline is going through a really rough stage right now, and she’s so sensitive to my moods I can’t decide if she’d be doing this anyway or if my stress is affecting her this much.
We’ve hit a total wall with the dogs. No progress has been made. Toly’s health is deteriorating rapidly, and we’ve got an appointment for him tomorrow afternoon. I’m afraid this isn’t going to end well because the meds we were given aren’t touching the issue with his leg. It seems to be getting worse, and his demeanor and personality are changing-I’ve seen behavior that’s close to aggressive, which is bad for obvious reasons. He’s barely putting any weight at all on his right side and now he pretty much refuses to sit, and when he does sit, he’s way back on his spine/hips and leaning to the left. He’s eating about twice what he should be and he’s borderline underweight. Pretty much though, the options were Valley Fever, osteomylitis or cancer. And based on the negative VF bloodwork and the lack of response to some hardcore antibiotics…
Yesterday Adeline used the potty with no prompting. She went from nap-wake up the next morning without an accident. I thought we were ready to potty train, but then today it was not so good. My mom came to the rescue (again) and told me to give Adeline a choice between underwear and diapers. At first she chose a diaper, but now every time she pees she just takes it off, so I finally just stopped putting them on her. Wearing nothing? She went to the potty every time. Wearing o-wears (underwear), she is hit-or-miss.
I’m reading Her Fearful Symmetry by Audrey Niffenegger. Best book I have read in a long time. Seriously, I am going to be so sad when I finish it. I am still doing my A-Z project, but the books I checked out were by V.C. Andrews, something along the lines of Broken Flower or something, and well, no. I guess I’m going to have to deviate from the plan to read ALL of the books to MOST of the books, because that was just not something I could stomach. And apparently it is the first in a SERIES. Ugh. No thanks.
The Week March 11, 2011
My mom is the best. She is involved without being interfering, and she doesn’t try to give advice unsolicited, but if I ask for it, she’s always willing to give her opinion on how to handle something I’m struggling with. (And I have to wonder how often she’s biting her tongue wanting to say something.) Not too long ago she helped me solve our bedtime issues, so last week when she came over I asked her if she had any suggestions to help with the tantrums and the screaming. Because oh my word, the screaming was driving me NUTS.
She suggested that I ignore the screaming and instead of ignoring the actual tantrum, try talking Adeline through it. With Adeline, it seems like the general recipe for tantrums is frustration+needing attention. Ignoring the screaming really takes the wind out of her sails, and even though it felt counter-intuitive at first to acknowledge the tantrums, but they are less frequent and shorter. She is still two, so she is still having the occasional meltdown, but I am dealing with them more effectively so in general they are just less stressful.
I’ve been working a lot with her on how to interact with the dogs. They’ve been so separate her whole life, she’s used to them but when they are around us they are still enough of a novelty that she can get to be a bit of a pest. We’re practicing GENTLY patting their heads and backs and not touching ears, noses, eyes or feet. She’s doing pretty well with it. If only I could convince Lucy to leave them alone. She just loves all of the animals so much, she just wants to play, but, well, no. It is complicating this whole effort, because when Lucy is up and about, I have to put the dogs back behind the gate. She’s a fast little thing, and there are some risks I’m not willing to take.
Hopefully we can really make some progress this week. I’m still toying with the idea of hiring a trainer, but I’m hesitant to do anything until we find out what is going to happen with Toly. The antibiotics aren’t making any difference so far, and I’ve found another lump on his neck.
I’m getting back into this weird floaty wait-and-see mindset and I need to shake it off. I have such a bad habit of putting things off because of impending change. I used to watch that show What Not to Wear and they would tell people to dress the body they had NOW and not the body they wanted to have, and I need to do that-live my life as it is NOW and not wait around for what might come.
Sleeping Arrangements March 9, 2011
Adeline got one of those inflatable ball pits for Christmas. It got popped recently and I threw it away, and we set up the tent she got from my dad the Christmas before. The second it was ready to use, she announced that she would be sleeping in there, and proceeded to move her blankets and animals from her bed into the tent. I didn’t really think she meant it until bedtime that night, when she really did climb in there to go to sleep. And she slept in there every night until the night before last.
The night before last, she announced she would be sleeping in her closet. And she moved all of her blankets and animals from the tent into the closet. So I made her a little pallet and there she slept.
I was talking to my mom about it and my mom commented about Adeline’s love of enclosed spaces, so we were talking about canopy beds or maybe bunk beds, or a bed tent. Well, we don’t happen to have a canopy bed or a set of bunk beds handy, so I found a king size sheet and made a tent over her bed. She immediately moved her animals and blankets back onto her bed and announced THAT is where she would be sleeping.