I can’t remember how it came up but my mom and I were talking about the movie Away We Go not too long ago, and I told her that in the spectrum of Mommyhood, I’m more or less thought of like Maggie Gyllenhall’s character. You know, the extreme one? My mom said that she was so, so glad there was no such thing as the internet when she was raising her kids, but then she agreed that people were probably just as jugemental, just more quietly since people actually interacted face-to-face.
Recently, Erin posed a question on her blog about elective c-sections. Apparently she had her children the wrong way because she had c-sections. Apparently her qualifications as a MOTHER are being called into question.
Seriously? I mean, really? We’re going to do this again?
How dare anyone question someone’s child birth choices! How dare they? No one is going to know every detail about every circumstance that another person is facing. And what about the Birth Experience? How is that LESS important for someone who wants to have a c-section rather than a “natural” birth? Hmm? I’d rather see someone have a planned, elective c-section and walk away with a feeling of peace and a bond with their baby than to see someone have a traumatic vaginal birth that was horrible for them, have no bond and lots of stress and anxiety afterwards. And you will never, ever convince me that forcing someone to have a vaginal birth that they don’t want to have isn’t going to end up leading to an emergency c-section anyway.
Go forth, have your babies. However you want to. As long as you feel good and confident in your choices, there’s no need to answer to anyone else.